I quit my job~

Okay so I thought “take a break, see if the writing and their emails posted on line might have made things worse” NOT!!!!!

Life just sucks around here.

This month is the anniversary of my employment here at the motel. 6 years

It’s the 34th year anniversary of my husband and I meeting. The month we decided hey we want to spend the rest of our lives together.

It is also what would have been our 31st wedding anniversary.

Let’s starting with the shortest anniversary.

My job sucks, the manager is hateful, after hanging in there for all these years I have had enough. I gave my 2 week notice. The manager pops off with I should have let you go awhile back. Owner says I’m not going anywhere. I am the most reliable employee he has ever had. Everyone makes mistakes and he said he pointed that out to the manager. I knew for sure I had to leave March 30th. An employee meeting from hell. Guest call wanting to speak to me. They say they will wait until they can. Why is that my fault? She said she was sick of hearing my name. She accused me of changing rates and that guest said I was doing so. My response ” Did you go back and look it up?” Guess not. We were told at the meeting there would be no fucking questions and she would be the only one talking. She was angry that I assured a guest that we were concerned for their safety ( seedy motel across the street sends their guest to our breakfast.) Manager was hoping to convert a conference room to do so, room key or lobby entrance only. I am going to be written up for discussing motel business. I am accused of damaging a relationship with someone we both know, I am informed that I am being demoted. Told her fine, came with no raise or authority and was in name only ( she hit me with that one another time she was angry) I let her know I didn’t wear the name tag anyway as I knew that. My fellow peers refer to me as her punching bag. we have a love hate I am the boss relationship. My health can’t take anymore, doctors yelling I should have quit long ago. I know that, but who was going to pay the health insurance I had to go to work to help pay???????

So I am quitting my job. I am terrified!! I do not have a job in the hole!! Well maybe, but not sure. She has informed the 3 of us that have given notice we cant l leave until there is a trained replacement  Damn I told her I would not leave her in a lurch and extended my notice to 3 weeks. Another relationship and anniversary in the toilet


Happy birthday to the both of you~ more of their emails….

From: pez @gmail.com>
Date: Sun, Dec 28, 2008 at 2:24 PM
To: him@gmail.com>

Happy belated birthday by the way.  I forgot to say that yesterday!  I like the goatee!!!!!  It looks great 😉  You look younger with it I think and it’s very cute 🙂  Couldn’t really say that at church.  So you must be over me now, huh?  You’re not talking to me anymore.  That’s okay.  I understand.  I had fun watching you watch the play today.  You looked like you were really enjoying yourself.  I had fun watching (our son)…Wow!  He was really belting it out, huh?  Well, after church I felt all lonely and stuff.  I hate this whole separating of the crowds that we caused 😦  I really wanted to go with you guys…..but that wouldn’t be so great.  You don’t have to answer or respond to me.  I just wanted to say hi. Hope job searching and finances are working out for you….I will continue to pray for you.
Okay, well hasta la pasta!

From: himgmail.com>
Date: Mon, Dec 29, 2008 at 9:39 AM
To: pez <@gmail.com>

Hey Silly,
You did say Happy Birthday at church yesterday. You know some people like the hairy face thing, but others aren’t sure what to think. I kinda like doing something different after all these years. You never know what will be next…shaved head or something. What do you mean I’m not talking to you anymore. I still am didn’t get much of a chance yesterday. You were watching, huh. How could you see from where you were sitting. There were to many people in the way. Yes, I did enjoy the choir thing. Each year our son is becoming more confident in his abilities. Jeff is threatening to move him to the bass section. Son does’t like the idea of moving down with Neil K. and Ed G. He doesn’t think he would have as much fun.
You know this retirement thing is kinda boring. I need to find something to keep busy. Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday are winter camp at the church, so wife and son will not be around much. Oh well, guess I’ll just hang out.
Just for info. Wife didn’t question the amount of time I was away the other day when we met. We all went shopping when I got home. Did all my shopping in fifteen minutes. Pre-planning is the only way to go.

From: him@gmail.com>
Date: Tue, Dec 30, 2008 at 2:56 PM
To: pez <@gmail.com>

Call me at home around 630 tonight   (bastard had her call our home!!!!!!!)

Lets talk at church, or else where, hey aren’t you with your husband?

From: Ms. Pez <amber@gmail.com>
Date: Fri, Dec 19, 2008 at 6:43 PM

These messages were sent while you were offline.
6:43 PM amber: Fine, then I won’t see you Wednesday. Sorry you’re not okay. Hope you can still get a job at the hospital. If I get an email explaining what happened, then that’s great. If you don’t want to talk weds then I guess I won’t talk to you.

From: Quai <husband@gmail.com>
Date: Sat, Dec 20, 2008 at 3:50 AM
To: “Ms. Pez” <amber@gmail.com>

So that is how it is, huh? Yes, I want to talk, but I don’t want restrictions.

From: Husband@gmail.com>
Date: Sat, Dec 20, 2008 at 4:07 AM
To: “Ms. Pez” <Amber@gmail.com>

Where are you accessing your email. I thought you were going to Kalaloch. The anniversary trip with her husband
What happened to what you said in your earlier chat:
Pez: i love you and good luck
byePez: kiss
Makes me wonder!!!!!!!!!!!!

From: Husband@gmail.com>
Date: Sat, Dec 20, 2008 at 4:08 AM
To: “Ms. Pez” <@gmail.com>

This is one of those cases where we need to talk in person, or somebody is going to say something to make us both angry.
From: Husband@gmail.com>
Date: Sat, Dec 20, 2008 at 4:20 AM
To: “Ms. Pez” <@gmail.com>

4:18 am and I cannot sleep. How are you sleeping?

From: husband@gmail.com>
Date: Sat, Dec 20, 2008 at 5:51 AM
To: “Ms. Pez” <@gmail.com>

Wednesday is Christmas Eve thus I do not believe youth or chior will be happening. Since I no longer have to go to work, maybe I can get away on another day. Let me know what works for you.



Well he now has retired ` was I worth it? What the eff!!

From: Ms. Pez <amber@gmail.com>
Date: Fri, Dec 19, 2008 at 3:38 PM
To: Husband@gmail.com

3:38 PM me: I am now retired

From: Ms. Pez <Amber@gmail.com>
Date: Fri, Dec 19, 2008 at 3:38 PM
To: Husband@gmail.com

These messages were sent while you were offline
3:38 PM amber: really? that bad huh?
3:43 PM I’m terribly sorry!
3:45 PM I feel horrible about all this! 😦
  are you okay?
  Are you going to work for the hospital?
3:46 PM do you hate me?
  was it worth it? WHAT THE FUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I still cant believe she said that!!

6 minutes
3:52 PM Amber: I’m sure you’ll explain in detail when you are free to. Thanks.

27 minutes
4:19 PM Amber: goodbye darling. I am on my way. I hope to come back to a nice email or a nice weds conversation with no kissing. 🙂

From: Husband@gmail.com>
Date: Fri, Dec 19, 2008 at 5:46 PM
To: “Ms. Pez” <Amber@gmail.com>

No, I am not okay. Will be, but it will take a day or two. Not sure what’s next. Only the Lord knows. If there is no kissing then as far as I am concerned then Wednesday’s are out. I would like my photo back. (There’s more to this story about his photo)

3:38 PM Pez: really? that bad huh?
3:52 PM Pez: I’m sure you’ll explain in detail when you are free to. Thanks.

27 minutes
4:19 PM Pez: goodbye darling. I am on my way. I hope to come back to a nice email or a nice weds conversation with no kissing. 🙂

From: husband@gmail.com>
Date: Fri, Dec 19, 2008 at 5:50 PM
To: “Ms. Pez” <Amber@gmail.com>

I do want a front photo also. Maybe not by email.    (she sent hi the from the back nude photo for Christmas)

Sent Items


What was he thinking?

It amazed me that an  educated, married, smart, career minded, family man would stoop to such a low. The mindset of manipulating the dept. What the heck, he did all the investigations for inappropriate behavior as a detective for his dept.

His indignation that they wanted to see his emails, talk to her…right up to the end, his arrogance I wholly believe is what sent the entire mess spiraling. He/we and everyone else hated the chief, the chief hated him, why would you antagonize him. Why not cool it and stop all the interest in your activity? Hell he could have seen her at night wile not on work.

His thought process of it’s out, everything’s on the mend, can’t get any worse, baffles me. He says he saw what was going on. I think at one point he actually thinks I am taking it harder than I need too. He’s fixing things at home…..but not getting rid of her………….what the fuck


Share these, don’t share those, why not these..emailing~ emailing~ emailing….


the  PD dept is on to them and wants to see his emails, 70 cell phone calls I guess has them suspicious? Here does a career, he still thought he would be ok. It amazed me the thinking process of how to get away with what your doing and no thought to the others around them. They figure that the fall out is behind them, let everyone recover and sooner or later they will quit.

From: Ms. Pez whore@gmail.com>
Date: Fri, Dec 19, 2008 at 11:00 AM
To: husband@gmail.com

10:26 AM me: hit
10:27 AM Amber: ho
  hold on a sec
 me: ok
Amber: ok
10:28 AM me: what’s up
Amber: nothing
  just entering checks and Bruce walked in
 me: I could use one
Amber: ha
  so you’re showing them this email address?
  why don’t you show them your husband@yahoo.com?
10:29 AM me: No, not if I can help it
  That one I might
Amber: yeah
  just check it out first though
 me: will do
Amber: because my letter back to you was kinda mean
  they might get the wrong idea
 me: Yes it was
Amber: ifyaknowwhatimean
 me: nice butt by the way
10:30 AM Amber: thanks
  i did that only for you
  and it’s just never enough is it?
  you still want more
  you’ve already seen the other side,

  ?   She sent him, for his birthday a nude photo of herself, from the back showing off that infamous butt that was part of the start of all this……she took the photo also….Soo 


6 minutes
10:36 AM me: back
Amber: k
10:37 AM me: Someone came into the room
Amber: figured
  everything ok?
 me: Yep
Amber: cool
 me: No it is cold out. Look outside
Amber: what do you mean you might have to show them this address?
10:38 AM me: I thought I’d share your photo. Then they would know why I’m crazy…hahahaha
10:39 AM her: yeah baby
 me: Did you answer my nice butt comment
Amber: ok but seriously,,,what do you mean?
  about might have to show them?
10:40 AM me: I did say thanks by the way
  I’ll pee while you’re writing
 me: They wanted to see my other personal email accounts to convince them there is no appearance of wrong doing.
Amber: back
10:41 AM how will this help?
 me: Well I don’t know if it would, because they will just claim I deleted emails
10:42 AM Amber: exactly
  and it’s none of their damn business
  what you do in your personal email life
 me: That is truce
  that is true
Amber: that has nothing to do with your job
  it’s only on duty
 me: True again
Amber: that has anything to do with your job
  please don’t share this with them
  have you already deleted everything?
10:43 AM me: Not yet, but if I share there will be nothing but good emails
Amber: ok
  will you do me a favor then?
 me: sure
10:44 AM Amber: Will you be able to send me copies of the emails we shared
  everything before I sent that one from my mom?
  because I deleted them all
 me: sure
Amber: hold on
10:45 AM Amber:because I want copies
 me: I don’t know how to forward
10:46 AM her: if you click on the emails, you should be able to just hit “forward”
  I don’t know if you can do them in bulk though
 me: Tried that
Amber: didn’t work?
10:47 AM me: Found out how
Amber: cool!
  in bulk?
10:49 AM Amber:got that one
10:50 AM Amber:hey got an idea!
 me: go ahead
Amber: after you get done sending me those
  you can delete everything AFTER that email from rebmajo on your end
  and then it looks like we’re done
10:51 AM Amber:herro?
  no likee my ideaee?
 me: I already did that
Amber: already did?
  you’re a smart
10:52 AMAmber: so isn’t there ALOT more that was before my email change episode with my mom?
10:53 AM me: I am fixing things
Amber: k

6 minutes
10:59 AM me: getting all
11:00 AM Amber: yes thanks
 me: if you see something that needs to go let me know
Amber: well
  they aren’t anything i really want anyone to know
  but go ahead and send them if there’s more

From: Ms. Pez <whore@gmail.com>
Date: Fri, Dec 19, 2008 at 11:01 AM
To: husband@gmail.com

These messages were sent while you were offline.
11:01 AM Amber: why don’t you just show them your yahoo

From: Ms. Pez <whore@gmail.com>
Date: Fri, Dec 19, 2008 at 11:29 AM
To: husbandgmail.com

11:29 AM me: what time are you leaving today
Amber: probably around 5pm
  for Kalaloch?  She’s heading out for a weekend with her husband for an anniversary or her birthday don’t recall which, she sent him photos her husband took
11:30 AM me: I will sign on at about 4 if I’m done and let you know what happens
  gotta go.
  see ya
Amber: ok
  well i’ll probably leave the office at 4pm
 me: I will tell them that I do not have your permission to share emails
11:31 AM her: but I’ll go to my dad’s if I have time  when not at work this is where she uses the computer
  sounds good
 me: bye
Amber: i love you and good luck
 me: Thanks
Amber: kiss
 me: kiss
Amber: 🙂

The second d-day they are talking

This was the day I was in Seattle and while talking to him on the phone found out they were still talking. I said to him your having an affair, it’s not over is it and I ran out of the restaurant, my poor friend and to pay the bill and meet me out side. They both had been warned to stay away from one another, the consequences will be high. Thank god they were 

 From: Jo Jo <rebmajo@gmail.com>
Date: Sun, Nov 16, 2008 at 2:22 PM
To: husband@gmail.com

So, did you get the cd?  I was a little concerned because after I went back inside from putting it in the mailbox, I turned off all the inside lights, then turned them back on to get some tea and some cinnamon gum to put in a baggy and take it out to the mailbox……..well……when I went out the front door (all the outside lights were off) I heard something say, “go back inside.”  I thought, no I’m not going to….and then I remember last time I heard that warning I didn’t listen and that’s when I got busted.  Well, I look up at the church, and I saw a running car, a sedan, and a person standing outside of it.  I couldn’t tell who it was, but when I spotted them, they walked back into the car and drove off immediately.  I don’t know if it was her or not.
If it was her, I can say I was taking my dog to go potty because I just took about 10 steps out the door when I stopped.   Since all the lights were off inside and outside my house, it was so dark that I don’t know if the person really saw me or not but it looked like they were facing my direction.  They didn’t move until I spotted the car.    I wouldn’t have even noticed the person if they hadn’t moved because then I saw them in the the lights from the church.  It was just a really weird occurance and made me really paranoid.  Did you happen to see her driving around last night?  I wanted to call your cell and warn you not to come up because you might run into her driving up here, but I was afraid to call your cell because you told me not to.  Also, if you were talking to her when I called, that would be a red flag.  After that, I thought, “man, I hope that person wasn’t there when I put that cd in the mailbox 10 mins ago.”  But I’m pretty sure I looked all around and didn’t see that car the 1st time.   I also thought that you would seem to think if it was her, she would have hidden the car so it wasn’t visible to my house.  It was on the furthest east point of the parking lot and was backed into the parking space against the fence that separates the driveway from the basketball quart.  And like I said, it was running, so I thought she would’ve made it more conspicuous if it really was her.  But I also thought it was weird that she told you she was leaving for Walmart and hour early that night.  So maybe she’s not in to conspicuous stuff.  Maybe she likes it out in the open.  ???  Does the Altima have a break light in the back window because this car had that.  Either that or a break light on a spoiler.  But you guys don’t have a spoiler, correct?  I couldn’t tell if it was an Altima or not and I couldn’t tell the color.  It seemed like it was darker than silver, but it drove away kinda fast and it was in the dark.  ( I think it was me)
I talked to (my/wife’s ) best friend today.  I was afraid to go to church now that she knows because I sit by her in Sunday School and I thought she might hate me.  Well, she doesn’t.  She still loves me.  She asked me point blank if it’s over between you and me and I looked her in the eye and said yes.  That made me feel extremely guilty.  She told me that (me) very irrational right now and that things will get better but it will “take a LONG time” to get better.  I said, “like a couple years?” and she just looked at me and smiled.
So I’m going to be very anxious for your response to whether that was in fact her, or if you know.  You did get the cd right?  She didn’t get it, right?  I watched out my window for you for about 20 mins or longer and then fell asleep watching on the couch.  I never did see you.  But I didn’t see that car come back either.
So whoopdie doo!  If you did get the cd, what did you think of it.  Is it too girly????  Those songs are depressing huh?  They make me think of you…even the happy ones.
my husband, I love you.
I’ll be waiting for your reply.

From: first & middle name <husband@gmail.com>
Date: Mon, Nov 17, 2008 at 3:09 AM
To: Jo Jo <rebmajo@gmail.com>

No, I don’t believe it was her. We don’t have a spoiler. She took a sleeping pill and went to bed. It ended up being a very busy night at work, so I didn’t get up there until after 2 a.m. Keep listening to your instincts. If that warning pops up again or you see something that doesn’t seem right please listen to it. Yes, I did get the cd and listened to it the rest of the night. I was surprised that I actually really liked it. Quite a few of the songs were depressing, but that’s what seems to reach the majority of people.. Just for info. I am working today (Monday) morning from 3 a.m. to 7 a.m. then around 8 a.m. I have to drop my car off at the shop. Wife and Jessica B. are going to Seattle for the day. That’s why I am writing at this time.
How did things go at church yesterday. Wife wants to talk to Cory, but I believe thatit is in a supportive way. She is really hurting for him. How did he react? Wife said when she glanced at him it appeared that he was crying. May just have been her emotions. She worked really hard at staying for the service. Hey, I got to get in the car right now, so I’ll write back later. Who knows maybe I’ll see you in the morning on your way to work, or after your work we can talk briefly. Where are you going to be afterwork? I will be driving our car, so don’t be surprised.
Love, my husband
From: first & middle<husband@gmail.com>
Date: Mon, Nov 17, 2008 at 6:08 AM
To: Jo Jo <rebmajo@gmail.com>

Amber Jo,
There are two messages here. The first was at 3:09 a.m. and is below so scroll down and read both of them. When you read this write me back with the time you are getting off of work. After work I want you to drive to 14th and Butler and I will meet you. Butler is the street my mom lives on. I will be walking down from my mom’s, so there will not be a problem.
From: Jo Jo <rebmajo@gmail.com>
Date: Mon, Nov 17, 2008 at 8:17 AM
To: first & middle<husband@gmail.com>

whew!  Thank the Lord.  SO you liked the cd huh?  Good.  That is a mixture of her old and brand new cd except for some I had to delete to make room for all the ones I really liked.  She’s pretty good, huh?
Yes, Cory was crying.  I could see wife up in the choir having such a hard time just coping.  It was hard for everyone to see.  Cory walked in late and when he did, she immediately started having a rough time.  I was too ashamed to look at her eye to eye but when I saw Cory crying after she walked by, I started crying too.  Then best friend and youth pastor/his best friend  walked by and they looked like they were both about to cry as well.  What a crying fiasco!
Well, after work I will be going to the bank and the post office.  Then I will go home and make some din din.  Hopefully I’ll get some time to work out.  My body craves exercise.  You may say I’m addicted to it.  That’s what my husband says.  But I’d rather be addicated to that than some other things, ya know?  I wrote you a paper letter (5 pages).  You’re not going to like it…just a warning.  I’m sick to my stomach just thinking about you reading it.
gotta go now,

Joy and peace are found in belief

From: Jo Jo <rebmajo@gmail.com>
Date: Mon, Nov 17, 2008 at 10:33 AM
To: first & middle<husband@gmail.com

Okay, I just noticed there were two messages.  I will get off about 3:40 I think, and then run those errands.  I’ll try to be there at 4:00pm.  Okie dokey?

I am pretty much babysitting all day because Diana is consulting someone who is going to be audited and they don’t know what the heck they’re doing.  Charity is cleaning horsey stalls and apparently training hers.  So that leaves me to babysit like always…on top of my work.  You know it’s amazing…how Charity can’t seem to take care of her own kids.  It always seems like they’re pawned off on Diana…and then Diana just leaves and guess who gets them???  If I wanted kids, I would have them 🙂

gotta go,
From: 1&middle name <husband@gmail.com>
Date: Mon, Nov 17, 2008 at 12:29 PM
To: Jo Jo <rebmajo@gmail.com>

I will see you there at 4:00. Just drive down Butler and I will watch for you. The 5-page letter sounds ominous. If I am not going to like it then maybe I shouldn’t read it. Sounds like it was a good thing that I wasn’t at church. Add me to the mix and I don’t know what would of happened. Enough people are upset with me as it is. Of course they are trying not to show it.
Exercising can be addicting… just depends what you get out of it. The question is what do you want to get out of it, or what do see as a benefit. Is it a mental thing or an body image thing? Are you using it to mask underlying problems or stress. I’ve seen most your body and grteatly appreciated what I saw. You once said that because of your dad you have a complex about weight. If that is the creates the desire to exercise then it might be unhealthy. My question is this; what do you think of the rest of the world that are not taking the same steps to control our weight. Does it change your opinion of them? Is your need to keep your body the reason you don’t want kids? Is there something else behind that, if so, what? If you want my evaluation you will have to ask for an appointment. The cost would be some tea and the other cd of you singing.
 chatting now.